I Hate All My Clothes by Alison Freer

I just stumbled across this article and felt the need to share with you. 

"Everything in my closet suddenly seems so cheap, tacky, and not me. Everything is too tight, too short, and made of terrible crappy fabric, horrible to the touch. Quantity has trumped quality."
Most days this is me, fellow babies.

" All this time I’ve thought I was the shimmering golden girl, a budget Daisy Buchannan, the babe you never see in the same dress twice. Now I’m grossed out and overwhelmed. I find myself wishing I just had a dozen perfect garments I could never tire of wearing." 
Ye gads, yes.  I yearn to just throw away everything in my closet and start over.  (Okay, not the jeans, because I really love my Dickies brand jeans.  --No, that's not a sales pitch.) 

And I want to read that book she mentions, Overdressed by Elizabeth Cline. 

So once again, for me, it comes down to money.  What I want to buy (good, quality made, classic styles) versus what I can afford.  There's a big difference between the two.  *sigh* 

World Goth Day 2013

Hello my freaky darlings.  It's World Goth Day, huzzah!!  In honor of this special day, I thought I'd share some of my favorite dark links with you.  In no particular order, they are:

Gothic Tea Society
Haunt Furniture & Housewares
I follow the above two on Facebook.
Gothic Charm School
The Lady of the Manners, Jillian Venters!
Dark Side of the Net
Lots of info here, along with a forum.
Find A Death
A behind the scenes look at celebrity deaths--very interesting stuff.
Sharpe Designs
Gothic, witchy, wiccan, romantic, pirate, steampunk things.  This one will take you a while because it is simply chock a block.

Bra Fitting 101 by Caty135

Holy ****, y'all.  I am wearing the wrong size bra, I am convinced of that now.  After reading Sam's article the other day and now watching this amazing how-to video from Caty135, oh yes, there is no doubt in my mind.  I had to pick my jaw up off the floor first, or I would have posted this sooner.  Ye gads, how many years have I (we!) been lied to about bra sizing?!  Around 40 for me.  Forty years of wearing the wrong size bras.  I feel hoodwinked and bamboozled.  I feel like I just caught my lover cheating on me with my best friend.  I feel like I just found a rotten spot on the apple I've almost finished eating!  You get the idea.  Seriously, though, I cannot wait to start trying on bras.  My concern is money, as usual.  Yes, I want a bra that is both pretty and proper fitting, but I do not want to have to shell out a ton of money for one.  Well, as I said, this bra situation will be an ongoing trial.  I simply had to share that video with you, though, because it's a great demonstration. 

Bra Fit: A Different Way to Measure

I am not obsessed with bras, I tell you.  However bra-related items just seem to be flying at me lately.  A Facebook friend shared this and upon first look, this gal's measuring tactics make sense.  I'm going to try it this weekend, if I have time, fingers crossed and I'll let you know.  In the meantime, read this lady's entire post here.  






Monday, May 20, edited to add:  All righty, well, I took my measurements over the weekend and they are quite different from the standard numbers.  In current measurements I am a C cup, however with Sam's way I come out as an F cup.  !!!  I suppose now I have to go bra shopping.  *sigh*  This will have to be an ongoing experiment and I will post on the subject again once I have found and purchased a bra using Sam's method.  (Perhaps I should add the word "successfully" to the string "found and purchased".)  We'll see. 

Tyler Perry: That is your past

THAT IS YOUR PAST AND THERE IS NO FUTURE IN IT

We have some golf carts at the studio. We use them to run around the campus, getting actors from here to there and so on. But the thing that bothers me the most about them is that when you put them into reverse a beeping alarm goes off. And it doesn’t stop until you go forward. It is so annoying to be in the middle of a shot, when I need it very quiet, to hear that beeping noise. I wanted the facilities guys to disconnect the reverse alarm but I was told that they couldn’t because it is a safety measure. The alarm is there to let people know that you’re about to go backwards.

I walked back to my office thinking about this and this thought popped into my head: wouldn’t it be great if we as humans had an annoying alarm that made a loud continuous beep when we are about to go into reverse? When we’re about to look back, like when you’re about to pick up that phone and call an ex that you know is no good for you, wouldn’t it be great if that alarm went on and stayed on until you hung up the phone? Wouldn’t it be great for all the people around you to hear that alarm so that they know you are about to go backwards and bring up some old crap? I think husbands and boyfriends would love that… LOL.

But seriously, there are a lot of people who are living their lives stuck in reverse, alarms going off, beeps beeping very loudly, but they can't get it out of reverse. You know these kinds of people, the ones that nobody wants to be around because they can be so annoying, always dwelling on the past. Full of “I wish I had done this” or “I wish I could have done that”. These kinds of people are sad to me, not focusing on the beauty of today, they’d rather dig through the ashes of yesterday. Listen to me, you can’t change anything that you have done in your past, all you can do is go forward. No matter how many mistakes you have made, no matter how many things you have done wrong, you have got to move forward. That is your past and there is no future in it.

And the only way to move forward is to ask for forgiveness from the people who you have hurt and wronged. Whether they forgive you or not you must ask… sorry that’s just the way it is. If you don’t you will continue to reap bad things from what you have done to them, even if they don’t forgive you. You will have the power to be free because you asked for forgiveness. And secondly, you must forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key that can move your life forward… and turn off the reverse alarm.

How to Spot Quality Clothing

I love the informative web site www.about.com and use it quite often.  Some people may think it too basic, but that's usually what I want when I'm just starting to research something.  I went there this morning to research some Pagan things and there on the front page was this article, "How to spot quality clothing".  It's a quick read, yet contains such heads-up as this one below.  Worth a read, me thinks.

"When an outfit comes with spare buttons, it's a sign that the designer expects it to be around long enough to require a few minor repairs, and an assurance that you'll have everything you need to make those repairs. If you happen to come across a garment that also includes spare thread, take that as a very good sign that you've found a quality item."

Bits and Bobs

The wonderfully dark Carrie of Dark Side of the Net, is sharing 5 Goth blogs she's currently reading.  --All worth a look, me thinks.  Carrie is usually spot-on with all things Goth. 

Sugar Cookie is now 10 months old, for crying out loud.  Two more months and she'll be one.
 Oy Vey.

Been battling sinus issues this week.  Again.  I've been struggling with this crap since September and let me tell you, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I realize that part of my problem is that I'm around babies almost every day; I drop off & pick up SC from day school.  And we all know that babies and/or the schools they attend are basically Germ Central.  So on some level there's really not a lot I can do.  However, I am finding that some things do help, such as...

I don't know about you, but when I blow my nose a million times a day, the skin around my nose starts to look awful, all dry and flaky and raw.  This stuff is UH-mazing.  Vaseline simply cannot compare.  

 Helps keeps the stuffiness away, it does!

 Some nights the Halls cough drops are the only way I can stop hacking long enough to sleep.  (I don't normally bother with sugar free lozenges; that's just the first photo I grabbed.)

This is the exact Neti Pot I have, the NeilMed NasaFlo.  It was a freebie and I admit, I was hesitant to start using it.  Shooting water through one's nose is contrary to everything I was taught as a child.  But this baby does, indeed, help keep the nasal passages cleaner.  

Last but definitely not least, the good old standby, Vicks salve.  My mother used this on me when I was a child, I used it on my daughter and now my daughter is using it on her child.  Sometimes this is the only decongestant I need, schmearing a little dab just inside each nostril.  Heck, I can even remember seeing my mother take a little by teaspoon once in a great while...yep, she took it just like cough syrup! 

P.s. All images found free on the big web thingy.
P.p.s No I don't own stock in any of these companies; these are really products I use in real life.  Really.